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What If We Took Life As A Game?

I know. The question itself may seem a bit inappropriate. Not to say downright out of place. It’s not really funny what’s going on right now. A worldwide pandemic, people left behind, loved ones leaving us without saying goodbye, more and more inquisitive states, and I’m not even going to mention the bad news that social media is filling us with all day long.

But like it or not, we are born without knowing how or why, in a world we don’t know, and with rules we don’t know. So, we have to deal with it. Should we accept hardships as they come and live an ordinary, flat, meaningless life or can we see meaning in them and live a fulfilling life?

I like this idea of saying that life has meaning. And the idea of associating it with a game. An infinite game, to use Simon Sinek’s expression. The idea of the infinite game is not new. James P. Carse was already talking about it before him, and he was only taking up some concepts of philosophers like Søren Kierkegaard or Henri Bergson.

Finite and infinite game

Unlike the infinite game, the rules of a finite game are defined in advance and cannot be changed, whereas the rules of the infinite game can and must evolve to ensure the continuation and expansion of the game, the goal of the infinite game being, for the players, to continue playing.

The infinite game is therefore a game without rules, and is, for the time being, “infinitely” more fun than the finite game whose goal is to win. Finite games are serious, infinite games are fun.

The “finite” player will try to acquire power and keep it at all costs to win at the expense of the others. In an infinite game, on the other hand, he will use power differently, not to force others to do what he wants them to do and beat them, but to allow them to do what they want to do in his game WITH them. In short, in the infinite game, he will play WITH others, not AGAINST others.

For fear of losing, “finite” players will seek predictability, while infinite players will embrace unpredictability and make it their ally. The unexpected will cause the end of the finite game, while it is essential for the infinite game to continue. Just like life, which will continue without us anyway, after we leave this world.

Why then persist in adopting the posture of a “finite” player for a life that is not? Wouldn’t it be better to change our mindset and see things differently?

Imagine for a moment to take hardships as challenges and not as a fatality. And to lead an existence WITH and FOR others and not AGAINST others.

The stress of losing would disappear in favour of an irresistible desire to continue the game of life. And our existence would be infinitely more fun and fulfilling.

So what if we changed our way of seeing things? Wouldn’t our lives be simpler?

Wayne Dyer one day said: “if you change the way you look at things, things you look at change”. Read that sentence again, and again. It speaks by itself.

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